Our co founder Rebecca just gave birth to her first child- a girl! And this has us thinking, how do you open up conversations about periods with young girls?  Talking about periods with your daughter might feel a bit awkward, but trust me, it’s one of the most important conversations you’ll have and the reason we wrote The Menarche Manual. By creating a safe, open space for her to learn, you’ll not only educate her but also strengthen your bond. So, let’s break it down and make this conversation as smooth and empowering as possible.

Start Early and Keep It Simple

You don’t have to wait until your daughter’s first period to bring up the topic. Start early by introducing age-appropriate concepts about the human body and how it changes. When she’s younger, keep the conversation simple. For example, you can explain that periods are a natural part of growing up and how they show the body is healthy and strong. When you are on your period, let your kids know. especially as we go through physical and emotional changes its important to let them know this is normal.

Be Open and Honest

Honesty is key. Share your own experiences (if you’re comfortable) to help her feel less alone. If she senses that you’re open, she’ll be more likely to ask questions. Remember, there’s no such thing as a silly question when it comes to periods—every question is valid and worth answering.

Use the Right Tools

Books, videos, and even having period products for her before it comes can make this conversation more engaging and less intimidating. There are plenty of resources designed specifically for young girls that explain periods in a way that’s relatable and easy to understand.

Normalize the Conversation

Periods are natural, so treat them that way. Avoid using euphemisms like “Aunt Flo” or “time of the month” unless your daughter prefers them. Use clear, straightforward language like “menstruation” and “period.” The more normalized the topic feels, the more comfortable she’ll be discussing it.

Focus on the Positive

Yes, periods can be inconvenient, but they’re also a sign of good health. Frame menstruation as a positive milestone that signifies growth and maturity. Avoid focusing solely on the discomfort or challenges, as this can create unnecessary anxiety.

Discuss Practicalities

Make sure your daughter knows what to expect. Explain how to use pads, tampons, or period underwear (based on what’s appropriate for her age and comfort level). Show her where you keep these supplies so she knows they’re always available. Discuss how often to change them and the importance of hygiene.

Talk About Emotions

Periods can come with mood swings, and that’s completely normal. Let her know it’s okay to feel emotional or irritable and that you’re there to support her. This is also a great time to emphasize self-care—things like rest, hydration, and eating well can make a big difference.

Create a Safe Space

Reassure your daughter that she can always come to you with questions or concerns. Whether it’s about cramps, irregular cycles, or just needing someone to listen, let her know you’re there for her. This trust will be invaluable as she navigates other aspects of growing up.

Talking to your daughter about her period doesn’t have to be daunting. By starting early, staying honest, and creating a positive, open environment, you’ll help her feel prepared and confident. Remember, this conversation isn’t just about periods—it’s about building trust and empowering her to take care of her health. You’ve got this!